By Elizabeth Behrens, BTB101 Educator & Online Community Manager

One of the things I’m seeing happen in the current climate of COVID + BLM + election season is a lot of white people breaking their silence on issues of race and racism for the first time on social media.

Maybe you’re sharing an article from this group you found helpful, or expressing a desire to consider the most marginalized in the voting booth…either way, you’ve broken the norm of white silence.

White silence has been a long-standing, white cultural norm that is firmly embedded in American society. I actually saw an interesting historical example of this yesterday when someone was discussing an early American theologian who “didn’t ever comment on slavery so we don’t know what he really believed about it.”

In that statement we see the idea that one can remain silent on an issue of injustice, and still be considered opposed to it. That silence is acceptable; is not a showing of complicity or an experience of violence for those suffering under the injustice.

This norm of white silence is so rooted in our culture that we socialize our children from a very young age by shushing them if they are to ever commit the faux pas of pointing out a person’s race or color in public and only bringing up the topic of race at publicly sanctioned times such as on MLK Day, and then only in a way that celebrates the parts of the past that make us most comfortable. White America prefers its Black heroes to be buried lest we have to deal with the complicated nature of their message instead of rewriting in a way where we are clearly on their side, because they are on ours.

The purpose of white silence Is the maintenance of the status quo, which In this case means a maintenance of white supremacy. If those with power who *could* change things will remain silent, then the white equilibrium of comfort and psychic freedom is supported and sustained.


It will be hard and have no doubt there will be consequences. Dismantling hierarchies that benefit white people will not go over well with other white people. Eschewing norms makes people uncomfortable, angry, and defensive. You are shaking the walls of what is easier for them to believe than having to deal with being complicit or at fault.

Prepare for that reality. Prepare with how you may respond to criticism and snark and belittling. Be ready to say, “I’m not sure how to answer you, but I know I’m focused on listening to the voices of those most marginalized, and if you’d like to join me in that, I’d happily share what I’ve found helpful.”

Remember you have the option to fade back into silence and complicity. That’s an option many take. It’s not an option most POC have. They don’t get to just dissolve into the comfort and protection of whiteness, but rather face the continual onslaught of its violence. Decide which side of that reality you want to find yourself on, gear up, and do what needs done.

I promise it’s worth it.


  1. Edward Royster August 23, 2020 at 7:14 am - Reply

    Elizabeth this blog was explained so well I really had to respond. I have lost so many white friendships due to silence and complicit behavior. I think about the scholastic requirements to learn “White History” in order to receive a High School diploma. Yet white people seem to go radio silent when the y shoe is on the other foot. My entire neighborhood has faded into the shadows as it relates to their interactions with my family after George Floyd. My pastor faded in the shadow with his relationship with me. I am not angry but curious as to why I never refused to learn white history but they are choosing to shun any real effort to hear me out. My only conclusion has become a reality and it feels as if most don’t think what we face has been an injustice. Thank you for a very well written blog post and I hope I responded with thoughts that fully explain how I feel.

  2. Cathy M August 24, 2020 at 1:32 pm - Reply

    Thank you.

  3. Gail Reid August 25, 2020 at 3:22 pm - Reply

    I would really like to know who wrote this blog post. I saw it on Facebook as a post by a friend. This essay makes some very important points that can be used by white people as a reminder to speak up against racial injustice and insensitive interactions.

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